Becoming Unapologetic

The Day You Stop Shrinking

July 03, 20252 min read

Why Playing Small Was Costing Me Everything

I used to think that playing small protected me. That by staying quiet, not ruffling feathers, and minimizing my wins, I would be more accepted and loved. But the truth? Playing small was quietly draining my joy and stealing opportunities from me before they even had a chance to arrive.

Every time I downplayed my success, I sent a message to the universe and to myself: “I’m not ready. I’m not worthy. I don’t want more.” But deep down, I did want more. I wanted the big rooms, the bold conversations, the true impact. And that meant I had to stop betraying myself.

The day I decided to stop playing small was the day everything changed. I stopped editing my truth. I started saying the bold thing in the room. I stopped hiding and started leading. The woman I was becoming demanded that I take up space, and the world responded in ways I couldn’t have imagined.

Actionable step for today: Notice where you’re holding back — in your voice, your work, your relationships. Pick one area and make a bold move today. Send that message, share that post, say what you really mean.

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If you’re ready to stop shrinking and start becoming the woman you were always meant to be, my 3-Day Starter Kit is your next step. When you sign up, you’ll get exclusive access to Breaking Free at a special price.

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It’s time to stop playing small and start living boldly.

Chisa~Marie is a transformational coach, speaker, and founder of Inspiring Women to Excel. A retired U.S. Air Force veteran with over 20 years of leadership experience, she now helps women break free from limiting beliefs, reclaim their power, and live unapologetically. As the voice behind Becoming Unapologetic, Chisa blends bold truth with mindset mastery to guide women back to themselves—powerfully, purposefully, and without apology.

Chisa~Marie

Chisa~Marie is a transformational coach, speaker, and founder of Inspiring Women to Excel. A retired U.S. Air Force veteran with over 20 years of leadership experience, she now helps women break free from limiting beliefs, reclaim their power, and live unapologetically. As the voice behind Becoming Unapologetic, Chisa blends bold truth with mindset mastery to guide women back to themselves—powerfully, purposefully, and without apology.

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